Tuesday, 6 January 2015

The 21st Century Juggling Act: Career, Kids, Partner

It can be difficult to keep all the balls up in the air. For the modern day parent, there are often a lot of obstacles to navigate. Having a career, raising kids, and nurturing a relationship is tough. Often it can leave us feeling stretched a little too thin for our liking. It’s not uncommon to feel guilt for having a date night and leaving the kids with your parents. Or for feeling like you have to give up your career to raise your kids ‘right.’ It is possible to balance all of these things, what more, more of us than ever are doing it and making it work. Now, there is no one blueprint for success, but here are some suggestions you can try...

Making Time For Romance

It’s true, children can take their toll on a relationship. The problem is everybody vying for attention, and the children usually win, leaving both parents feeling neglected. The most important thing is to make time for each other. That’s it! It really doesn’t matter what you do during that time, but just spend it together, sans kids. Whether it’s meeting up for coffee in a lunch break, going to the cinema, or cooking together at home. Spend some quality time together.

Try not to talk about the kids non-stop when you are together.Of course, it’s natural to want to talk about them, they are the centre of your world. But you have to also talk about the things that drew you to each other in the first place. Talk about tv shows, politics, whatever it is that makes you laugh, debate, and feel interested in each other. Always remember, you are a team!

Being The Best Parent You Can Be

We all need to stop feeling guilty about leaving our kids with friends to babysit or at a daycare centre. It doesn’t make you any less capable or loving of a parent. In fact, quite the opposite. Looking after your kids 24/7 leaves you no time to pursue a career. This can lead to some feeling unsatisfied, stressed out, and irritable. Taking a much-needed break from our home life to work is sometimes needed. When we return we’re ready to give situations our all, and we’re in a much better mood. Plus an early learning centre is a great place for your kids to interact with other children and become more sociable.

Me-Time Is A Must

To make you the best parent and partner, you need to take a break from both. Sounds counter-productive, doesn’t it? The thing is, we all need a chance to indulge in our own personal passions and hobbies. It gives us a chance to destress and unwind. It also allows us to be our own person. Too often once the kids have left home we’re left wondering what our identity is. For so long we look after our kids and partner and it’s our number one priority. When they don’t need looking after as much we sometimes realize we neglected to look after ourselves. Value your own time and hobbies too.

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