Monday, 18 March 2019

The Fire (in the mind): Igniting our childrens' desire to learn

While fun with the family is a great way for us all to bond, if we are constantly spending time with our children, enjoying ourselves, we might feel a little bit guilty that when not helping them more to learn. After all, we’re so busy in life the last thing on our mind would be to help our children learn! But it's an important part of their developments, especially if they don't like school. But the trick is all about igniting the desire to learn, rather than forcing it upon them. What are the best ways to do this?

Finding Their Passions
It might very well be the case that your children haven't found their passion yet. We all have individual hobbies and interests, and it's these things that we naturally pay more attention to. And it may be as simple as this! If your children haven't found their passions, then it's hardly surprising they’re not really paying attention to anything! And it's your responsibility to find something for them to pay attention to, and this means providing as many different experiences as possible. It's not just about doing the same things all of the time, instead, give them a diverse set of experiences to draw from. Take them to a kids farm on the weekend, or maybe to a museum, but mix it up with quality time with the family. After all, variety is the spice of life.

Making Them Learn “By Accident”
And if there's something that they have to learn, such as in school, but they can't connect with the subject matter, sometimes a change of environment helps. But what also helps is making them not think about the fact that they have to learn something. This is where memory techniques like mnemonics or turning something into a song has great benefit. There are so many great courses online in which to improve your memory, but they always boil down to the fundamental fact that if you're not engaged with a subject, then that is why they're not taking anything on board.

Encourage Them
And with all of the best will in the world, if we're not encouraging them in the right direction, then we won't see any results. It's a very delicate balance. We have to encourage our children, but we can't force them to do something. In many ways, this starts early on in life. But we have to respect our children's limitations. We can do anything we put our mind to it, but as we get older, we, as parents and people, become limited by our own lack of belief. Encouraging them is a delicate art. But we have to respect their boundaries. If they are struggling with something, we can help them as much as we can, but if we are limited in Pythagoras and complex mathematical terms, we'll have to find some way to help them learn the information.

After all, our children don't always want to learn, but if we can find a way for them to have an interest in a certain subject, this could bleed through into other aspects of their education. As such, it's about variety, but also understanding that learning and going to school isn't a dull and boring thing.

Wednesday, 21 November 2018

Stress free Christmas fun with your Family

Christmas is for many one of the most stressful periods of the year. Indeed, families face difficult challenges, both to prepare their Christmas presents and to stay on top of the celebrations.

Conflicts are frequent during the festive season, and they are, unfortunately, all linked to the way you react under stress. Ultimately, you can’t pretend that there isn’t a lot to sort out ahead of the celebrations! But you can get on with the preps without exposing yourself to high amounts of pressure.

The preferred approach for Millennials is to look at it from a DIY perspective. Indeed, if you are embracing the homemade feeling of Christmas, you can tap into a newly found sense of fun. Remember that it’s a family holiday; at its core, it’s about spending quality time together. Accept that your Christmas party may not be as polished as what lifestyle magazines aspire to. This is precisely what makes the holiday magical and memorable for all:

Own Christmas with your own family theme

The countdown with playful photos

Christmas decorations can be expensive – in fact, every year, families budget for their decorations alongside their presents. While you might want to create a unique indoor universe, you can’t break the bank in rococo and sparkling embellishments to impress your guests – chances are that your precious Christmas items won’t survive the holiday. Instead, use stylish and fun photos to create your individual take on Christmas. It’s not too late to prepare Christmas cards with family photos – these are perfect for family announcements too. Besides your in-laws will be delighted with the personal attention. If you don’t want to send printouts of your family photos, why not use a seasonal theme instead, such as elf ideas which you could decline for your greeting cards? This will give you a feeling of building something magical and unique for the seasonal, without breaking the bank on gold and sparkles.

Take no chances for your Christmas dinner

Large families fear reunion events, such as Christmas parties. Indeed, they can be tricky to organise, especially if you leave it to the last minute! Planning ahead – you can start planning now! – will save you a lot of issues. The earlier you start, the easier it is to design a decor and a meal that don’t go over budget. If you’re worried you may not be able to manage the timing of the dinner, you can work closely with a caterer. Thankfully, you can also share food duties with your guests. Why not ask someone to bring the dessert?

Thoughtful without breaking the bank

We get it; you want to have a thoughtful gift for everyone, but you’re not sure you can afford it. Don’t worry; you can make personal presents easily. Your aunt or distant cousin will be delighted about your homemade gin and tonic truffles – and they’re super easy to make! With a lot of patience, you can also get your older relatives a personalised Guess Who game with the photos of all the family!

Making Christmas magical this year doesn’t have to be a source of stress. On the contrary, with an out-of-the-box approach, you can make your decor, dinner and gifts stand out without even breaking in a sweat!

Thursday, 25 October 2018

10 Steps for Feeding Babies aged 0-12Mths

Although my babies are no longer in this age range, i can still remember all our feeding routines from the early days right through to the fussy toddler days. My youngest is now 5 yrs old, i remember everything about his dreadful feeding habits because he was the only breastfed baby out of all 3! I remember having long discussions with other breast feeding parents and even healthcare professionals about breastfeeding and how excited i was to try it with my last baby as i never really fancied it with the others. I watched other mums feed their babies, it looked so easy so i didn't doubt it for a second!

Then i had my beautiful baby boy, he was perfect. Shortly after his birth i tried breastfeeding, it went really well, just as i had planned.... for the first few feeds!!!
Then my baby decided not to latch properly, he struggled to feed and it got so painful so quickly! Midwives suggested he had tongue tie and would need to have the skin under his tongue snipped to make feeding much easier, so after a week or so we went ahead with it. I really thought it would make a difference but sadly it didn't. My boy still wasn't very good at latching on and i was losing patients. Bottle feeding was so much easier for both of us, so after 7 weeks of breast feeding struggles I decided to bottle feed only. I never looked back! This is what worked for us and my baby was content, he slept good and i was no longer in agony!

I know a lot of mothers keep up breastfeeding way past 6 months! Some have no struggles at all. I tried my best but it wasn't for me! I feel sorry for young mothers today who may feel pressured into breastfeeding, breast isn't always best, it definitely wasn't in my case.
We all want our children's feeding experiences to be positive ones but it doesn't always work out how we would have liked. Today i've been looking at these 10 easy steps for feeding babies aged 0-12 months and i think it's definitely worth a read for new parents who may be a little concerned by their babies eating habits, or lack of eating! It's SO difficult to know if our children are getting the right amount of vitamins, iron and everything needed to keep their little bodies fit and well. I found this information really useful and i only wish it was around back when my children were very little!

Monday, 10 September 2018

How to Organise a Stress-Free Special Event

Large family events such as land mark Birthday parties and Christenings can be challenging to arrange, each of my children have had beautiful Christening parties and I was so lucky to have the help of my mum who is amazing at organizing parties. I don't think i would have been able to do it on my own!

Along the way i picked up some ideas that may make these special events slightly more stress free and i'd love to share these ideas with my readers :-)

Plan Ahead

There isn't anything worse than running out of time when you need it most. It's best to plan events in advance rather than leaving yourself short on time. Give yourself longer than you think you may need just to be sure. On the day of the event, if you are thinking of booking a hall or social club be prepared to pay extra for more set up time. You'll be glad of extra time to prepare before the guests arrive!

Hire a Caterer 

Cooking and preparing food for a large amount of people is probably the most stressful thing about holding such an event. What if there's not enough food? What if the food goes cold? Take all these worries away by hiring a caterer and let them take care of the food. You will still be able to have a say in what food you would like served and you'll be able to sit back and relax knowing its all taken care of.

Send Invites Out Early

Summer time events can be worrying as many people go on holiday and wont be able to make the event, you then start worrying that there wont be many people. Send invites out in plenty of time so you know before hand how many to cater for. You'll be glad you did!

Ebay Party Decor

Don't spend a fortune in high street stores such as Clintons, you can purchase party balloons, Helium balloons, Banners, Bunting and other decor from Ebay, you will also have a better choice and can even get personalized decor. I use Ebay for my children's party decor every time and never pay too much :-)


I've been to weddings and parties where i've had to stand for a long time due to there not being enough seating! Its probably the worst thing that can happen! Always make sure you have enough seats and tables before the event. Extra's can be hired if needed.

Do you have any Party organisation tips?  I'd love to hear from you in the comments :-)

Wednesday, 22 August 2018

3 of my 'Must Haves' around the Home

 Everybody has their own favourite household essentials that they just couldn't be without, whether it's a front door mat, or key holder, a picture...
You may have many things that you couldn't be without, I know i do! For this post i've decided to write about 3 things only. What 3 House hold things i couldn't be without?! I'm not talking about Washing Machines and Kettles, obviously we all need those very much! I'm focusing on things that not everybody may find important but I do.

In order, here are the 3 most important things around my home that i couldn't be without:

1)      My Mug Tree

I have a small mug tree which holds 4 little Coffee cups and matching saucers. It's not identical to the one in the picture 'cos mine is way nicer!
It stands in my kitchen next to the Kettle and Coffee pots... ideal!

Why do I need it?

I'm quite fussy when it comes to a cup of Tea or Coffee. I don't like big heavy mugs for my hot drinks, especially as i drink a lot of Coffee so i prefer a small cup, then i don't have to feel really unhealthy if i have 5 cups per day!
The cups on this stand are the perfect size for me, I also love the stand because it saves space in my cupboard.

2) My Yankee Candle Collection

My candles are used every single evening when the kids go to bed, as soon as i come down the stairs my Candles are lit. I have 1 in the front room and 1 in the kitchen. I'm loving the large Yankee candles at the moment, because they seem to last forever!

Why do i need it?

 I think i became more in love with candles when we got our first family pet last year. I remember walking through my front door and the first thing i could smell was the cat litter!  I'm way too house proud for my lovely home to smell bad so i bought quite a few candles and that's when my love of candles began!
I now have around 4 candles in stock at home! I seem to add a few to my shopping order each week! As well as how great they make your home smell, it's also a calming and stress relieving thing to have in your front room when the kids are asleep and all in calm!

Candles can be pricey, especially the very popular Yankee candles. It's always good to shop around first and see what deals are available online rather than buying them at the supermarket.

3)  Coasters

You already know that i like to drink coffee in my favourite little cups! My cute little hedgehog coaster set goes great with my coffee addiction!  I bought it last year in Next and it's honestly the best thing in my front room!

Why do i need it?

Nice coasters always look good to have out when you have guests over, it saves your furniture from getting marked and in this case it looks super cute too! Whats not to love?!

So there you have it. These items would be the first things to go in my Moving Out box! I have other things around my home that i love and that are special to me, but these things which some people may not have or need, are really important to me!

What 3 household thingy 'ma bobs couldn't you be without?!  Please comment with your answers :-)

                                                                Thanks for Reading :-)